Need some advice

[bcjr88]

I just signed up to this forum so Hi everyone! I need some advice. My girlfriend and I have been together now for 5 years. Im 26 and shes 24. I plan on marrying her and she knows it. She generally is a little conservative (but we do have fun!). We have traveled together before on cruises, to theme parks, to islands, and on business trips. I wanted to take her to Hedonism to kinda try something new. I think she will like losening up a bit. We both have very stressfull and demanding jobs and I have a lot of Family issues at home. We both try to get away each year just the two of us. So was thinking about switching it up a bit. Looked at the website for Hedo and read some reviews and it looks like a lot of fun. My cousin, who I am very close with, went there with his high school sweat heart once before they got married and they had a blast. I just had a few quesitons for you guys. Does anyone ever make you feel uncomfortable there? We both aren't the skinnies people in the world is that a problem? can you stay on the prude side and then venture over to the nude side? Mainly I just wanna know if there is any pressure there from anyone to take it off right away or is it pretty easy going. And the shows what are they like? any advice would be helpful.

Thanks!

[gsml]

Welcome to the forum.

Hope you're not planning on surprising her with this. Make sure she is aware of what kind a place this is and you are both on the same page. Communication is key. Let her control the pace and do not push her.

No pressure to do anything you don't want to do. You can stay on the prude side if you wish, but you will quickly realize that the party is always on the nude side. Nude is nude, no clothing allowed. Nobody cares what you look like, all shapes and sizes can be found there.

[mac_r_a]

I just signed up to this forum so Hi everyone! I need some advice. My girlfriend and I have been together now for 5 years. Im 26 and shes 24. I plan on marrying her and she knows it. She generally is a little conservative (but we do have fun!). We have traveled together before on cruises, to theme parks, to islands, and on business trips. I wanted to take her to Hedonism to kinda try something new. I think she will like losening up a bit. We both have very stressfull and demanding jobs and I have a lot of Family issues at home. We both try to get away each year just the two of us. So was thinking about switching it up a bit. Looked at the website for Hedo and read some reviews and it looks like a lot of fun. My cousin, who I am very close with, went there with his high school sweat heart once before they got married and they had a blast. I just had a few quesitons for you guys. Does anyone ever make you feel uncomfortable there? We both aren't the skinnies people in the world is that a problem? can you stay on the prude side and then venture over to the nude side? Mainly I just wanna know if there is any pressure there from anyone to take it off right away or is it pretty easy going. And the shows what are they like? any advice would be helpful.

Thanks!

Welcome to the forum I agree with the above post - this is not a trip to surprise her by booking. You have to both agree, she has to know what it is about and you have to talk about it. Many people go that are not into the lifestyle and are just there to enjoy each other sexually, but it is still highly recommended not to surprise her with this trip.

As for your questions. #1 There are people everywhere is the world who will make you feel uncomfortable, you will never get away from that, BUT it is rare at Hedo. #2 There are all types of body shapes and sizes of people at Hedo, no worries there. #3 you can hang out on the clothing optional side and then venture over to the nude side if you would like to find the fun, however you must be nude on the nude side. But within moments you will quickly realise that you were concerned about nothing and it is fun! Drop your towel, get in the pool ad grab a drink and let the fun begin! #4 The Entertainment Staff is amazing and put on great shows in the evening.

Get her to join this site and check it out, it really is an awesome place! If you both decide to go then check out the events tab at www.hedonism.com/events and look at the groups going and pick a group you think fits your time frame and that looks interesting and contact them to see what they are about.

Happy Hedo Planning!!

[Cdn_cpl]

Totally agree with GSMI, DO NOT surprise her with a trip to Hedo, that could be a recipe for disaster if she feels you were trying to trick her into going. Yes you can totally hang out on the c/o side and have a great time but you will find it very quiet. I would say 90% of the people are at the nude pool or beach during the day. If you are going to try the nude side at all do yourself a favour and don't agonize over it for a couple of days, just jump right in. We've seen people who tried for most of the week to get up the courage and then were upset that they hadn't done it sooner.

As for the shows I will politely disagree with Mac, after five trips quite frankly we find them way too loud, repetitive and just not very interesting. We usually head out to the courtyard or upper pool area when they start and hang out with other people. This is just our opinion, I know others realy enjoy them and will pipe in on this.

[mac_r_a]

As for the shows I will politely disagree with Mac, after five trips quite frankly we find them way too loud, repetitive and just not very interesting. We usually head out to the courtyard or upper pool area when they start and hang out with other people. This is just our opinion, I know others realy enjoy them and will pipe in on this.

Agreed, but for the first trip they are amazing - but yes in the last few years everything seems to keep just getting louder and louder, lol

[Kira Royal]

Welcome!
We are going to Hedo for the first time in Feb. I am 24 and my husband is 26.



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[jssnacks]

Have her look at the site with you and discuss with her, when have her ask her questions and discuss her fears. Hedo is not the kind of place to surprise someone with.

[Brian&Terri]

As usual everyone is right. When we thought about going the first time we joined this forum. Our first few post were question that we both came up with. Have her look on here with you and post any questions she may have. That said, you will love a Hedo vacation as long as you come with an open mind.

[millionsnmilo]

Don't surprise her .. you both will be shocked enough.

Heck I get naked on the prude side.... I actually think millions and I put on a show one day on the prude side.... Sorry if we offended (it was fun)

[JayNSteph]

I think everyone is intimidated seeing the pics on the webpage, but you will soon find out that everyone there is all shapes, sizes, heights, colors, yada yada....One thing someone told us before we went, next time you go to the grocery store, look around...those are the kind of people that go to Hedo. Which means normal, everyday people go there.

You don't have to take it all off right away, or even at all. We have a few "prudies" in our group that hang out all week on the prude side because she is not into getting naked in front of people, but they love the atmosphere of Hedo and we always have a blast with them. We even venture over there to hang out with them time to time. So no pressure to do anything you don't want to do, and that is the truth. You will love it there.

Good luck.

[bcjr88]

Thanks for all the responses i appreciate it. I dont plan on suprising her we did talk about it and she has visited the website and talked to a travel agent about it. She has basically the same questions I had, she didnt want to feel pressure to do something she didnt want too. She was kinda interested but not 100% sold. I told her its completely up to her I do not want to pressure here into something like this, especialy since I truly do wanna spend the rest of my life with her. I gave her my username and password to this site so she may post some more questions. Thanks again for all the replies!

[HedoCouple2013]

We met some pretty conservative people that you would never expect to see at a place like Hedo and they had the time of their lives.

[foxxyandhound]

Agreed, but for the first trip they are amazing - but yes in the last few years everything seems to keep just getting louder and louder, lol

we are not lovers of the shows now either... the first time there we watched every show... the second trip we watched a couple of shows... now we leave the dinning room when they start... but the week we are there in oct the kinks or something like that are there and they say its quite the show... so we might stick around to see....lol

[Cdn_cpl]

Agreed, but for the first trip they are amazing - but yes in the last few years everything seems to keep just getting louder and louder, lol

If you say so. We didn't like them from the very first trip.

[we2are469]

Welcome to the forum bcjr88

Something else to discuss is what your limits are. Everybody has a different comfort zone, and you both need to be on the same page. In other words set your limits BEFORE you get to Hedo and don't change them while in the heat of the moment, wait till the next day at least.

You will be required to be nude on the nude side, security will remind you if you forget.

And I agree with the volume level of the evening show being too loud, but in general it was OK.

R