Originally Posted by
SunAndSand
I really just got caught up and read all the responses on the thread. I normally just ignore negativity and/or rudeness but since i started this thread for my questions, I do want to speak out about a couple of things.
Of course, I'm a newbie with only a couple posts -- if I'd been around this forum/Hedo a lot, I wouldn't *need* to write and ask basic questions. So, if people don't feel like they know me well enough to comment on the questions I asked, that's fine -- either ask me questions or stay off the thread. But I don't understand why they want to be hateful to others who do feel comfortable enough with a newbie to answer. For those who may have felt that people are being overly enthusiastic or making blanket statements or something, you might want to check some of the early posts on this thread (like NorthernBoy's first post or two) as examples of how to state that nicely and courteously.
Plus, I posted to ask people what their experiences are (which is the point of forums like this) and it's pretty condescending to tell people they can't use whatever words they want to describe what they saw/experienced! When I read "unicorn" or "royalty", I smiled. I didn't assume that *I* was guaranteed anything, because I'm a reasonable adult who understands that no one on an anonymous online forum -- or in life, for that matter -- can guarantee me anything (I mean, who thinks that?!? And if there are people who think that, they deserve whatever experiences they have). I understood those words the way the posters meant it -- partly as reassuring, partly as a reflection of the fact that single females are in such a minority (which certainly matched my experience) but that I shouldn't let this worry me with respect to the specific questions I was asking.
Again, that was great advice that I am glad I followed.
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